Advice

Are you an OVERTHINKER ?¿🤔

  1. No matter how tiny any issue is, he will dig into it with all his efforts until he satisfies himself.
  2. If anything goes wrong, regardless of what others feel, he will blame himself for whatever has happened even if he has a 0% contribution towards it.
  3. If he ever has an argument with someone, no matter how heated the argument is and even if he isn’t at fault at all, he will find reasons to blame himself.
  4. He will be the first one to say sorry after a fight because his overthinking mind renders him guilty every time.
  5. He will check all the possibilities regarding something before finally jumping into the conclusions.
  6. He will go to any limits to make someone close to him happy.
  7. He will imagine himself in the worst possible scenarios of something and later feel relieved that it didn’t actually happen.
  8. He will take time before suggesting someone with any ideas but makes sure that’s the best possible idea anyone can offer.
  9. He will have problems saying no to anyone for anything so that the others don’t feel bad.
  10. He has problems having an open conversation with people for he doesn’t want to be misunderstood.

“Don’t get too deep, it leads to over thinking, and over thinking leads to problems that doesn’t even exist in the first place.”
– Jayson Engay

@SiLeNt PeN


Advice

Let the world know what you think 💭

When you care about someone, show it. Allow yourself to act vulnerable. Give yourself permission to express your emotions. Don’t leave anything left unsaid. Don’t censor yourself. Use your voice. Say those three little words. Say whatever is on your mind. Be the most authentic version of yourself.

When you care about someone, don’t worry about appearing clingy or needy or overemotional. Don’t hold back the way you’re feeling out of fear it won’t be reciprocated. Don’t stay inside your comfort zone. Break out and take risks. Embrace the unknown. Be more spontaneous, more adventurous. Stop playing it so safe.

When you care about someone, put in the effort. Smile across the room. Send the first text. Give compliments. Plan outings. Make it clear you value their time and appreciate their presence. Don’t let them get to the point where they’re questioning whether you actually care. Don’t force them to guess how you’re feeling when you could come right out and say it to their face. Don’t put them through the process of dating games. Save yourself time. Save yourself the trouble.

When you care about someone, don’t let your fear get in the way of your feelings. Don’t let your discomfort convince you to keep your kindness inside. Speak from your heart. Love loudly. Let the world know what you think.

A few caring people can change the world. Being caring for someone is a blessing in disguise for them.💫😊 @SiLeNt PeN

Advice

Wise words by Charlie Chaplin

Today while reading I found this wonderful poem.This amazing poem was written by a genius Charlie Chaplin. A Great Mind, and a Genius, he was.

“As I began to love myself
I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is Authenticity.

As I began to love myself
I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call this Respect.

As I began to love myself
I stopped craving for a different life,
and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call this Maturity.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call this Self-Confidence.

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.
Today I call this Simplicity.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health, food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down
and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.
Today I know it is Love of Oneself.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is Modesty.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it Fulfillment.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection Wisdom of the Heart.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing, new worlds are born. Today I know: This is Life!”

Advice, Thoughts

Vivid emotions💬

Things they don’t tell you when you move cities and leave your home:

It’s hard to keep up with people and even harder to keep up with people you left behind.

Conversations change. There’s small talk, a lot of it and you will do more of it even though it’s the one thing you hate the most in the world. You probably took all the people you had for granted and thought things were pretty steady and permanent.

The culture, the facilities and the language of the place you move determines how you’ll communicate. On one hand, maybe they’re friendlier, on the other you don’t find yourself really talking. Phone calls back home increase in number and your best friend wonders if you’re sane.

You can live with strangers and not know each other.

Sometimes, at 2 AM, you wish that maybe, instead of calling your best friend to tell them about how your boss sucks, you’d rather tell him/her, but something tells you he/she doesn’t want to hear it, or cares. This isn’t college. You’re on your own and you are your own team and that isn’t necessarily sad. It just means that everyone is fighting a battle of their own like you are and finding people, who might prioritize you in the midst of that, will take time.

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Doing your laundry on the weekends is more important than going clubbing. You probably don’t have the money anyway. Or people to go with. Yet. Let’s not forget all the food you’ll burn while you learn cooking.

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You start to find happiness in the small things.

When someone asks you if you’re okay or gets you a cup of coffee when you need it the most, it makes your heart flutter and the kindness can seem overwhelming. You constantly believe you’re alone and in moments like these you’re a part of something bigger than yourself. You start to see the poor and the abandoned and there’s a feeling of relief that you really do have so much going for you, more than you thought. You become kinder and understand how much more the world needs it, need you, even.

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You don’t have as much time as you think.

You forget on a few days that as you grow old, so do your parents. Weirdly enough, for a kid that spent so much time in her room at home, you’ll call them whenever you can. Saying good night matters. Checking up on them to see if their health is alright becomes imperative. In the end, maybe we do become our parents after all. For all the times we thought we’d never make the same decisions they would, you start to understand them and your roots too.

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Tough times don’t last, but tough people do.

You will become someone who says– “Got work now. Will talk to you later”. And sometimes later might mean, on the weekends and sometimes in months. Making time for people won’t be as easy as it used to be. There will be nights when the work isn’t done and all you want to do is sleep and listening to another’s problem isn’t something you’re up for. Life will filter people out before you and while it’ll hurt at first, weren’t you always better off being around those who understand you and know why you work so hard? Some bonds defy time and places and they will stay.

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No matter where you go, you pick your people, no questions asked. Some people are worth leaving behind everything behind for.

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Take care of yourself.

All that work and money will not matter if you’re not okay. Eating Maggi all week won’t really do your body any good when you’re 30. Mental health counts just the same. Solve issues in real time before it’s too much one morning. Exercise. Socialize. Do self-care. If you had to name the top five things on your priority list, how long would it take before you named yourself?

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Don’t judge a book by its cover.

I guess the cute guy/girl opposite your desk at work can smile after all.😉✌️

So, Go with the flow!🙂

Advice, Thoughts

Being Different 🖖

It is okay to be different. A lot of us are. And there are a lot of things written and spoken for people who are different, who are unique.

But something that isn’t so often said, is that it is okay to be the same as everyone else too. It’s okay to be doing something that is common, that isn’t something different.

You don’t have to stand out just because you’re told to; just because you’re forced to.

It’s okay to work at a 9:00 to 5:00 job, slamming away at the keyboard. Monotonous. But you know what responsibilities wait for you back home. And maybe those responsibilities demand that you stay monotonous for a while.

It’s okay to be the same as everyone. It’s okay not to be a yellow umbrella among all the black ones. It’s okay to blend in with other.

It’s okay. As long as you’re fine with it, it’s okay!

Advice

Funny how sometimes you just find things.. 😊

Maybe the first time you saw her was when you were 25

The time when you didn’t know what this flustered feeling meant in your heart. The time when you didn’t understand why you went weak in your knees while talking to her.

And maybe, you didn’t know what to do at the time. You tried a little too hard to not show how much she meant to you. You tried a little too hard to be cool and that was what made you wait for the clock to strike 12 to be the first person to wish her a happy birthday.
And every time she looked and smiled at you, you wanted her to look away because you didn’t know how to deal with all these emotions inside your chest.

But every time she looked away, all you could think was, look at me, please. Just once more!!❣️

Few feelings meant everything to you!

Advice, Thoughts

TAKE THE GARBAGE OUT⚠️

TAKE THE GARBAGE OUT

So many people will offend you, you will be bruised and trampled by people whether intentionally or not…
The experience would be devastating.

It is your choice to dwell in the pain or cut your loses and move on in life.

you need to know this…

Every trash in your house requires you to take either of these actions

1. endure the offensive odour
2. take the trash out

You decide!!!

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