At the end of the day, it’s not really about whether you have arguments in your relationship or not. It’s about how well you move on from moments of conflict and find a resolution as a couple.
It may seem counterintuitive at first, but it’s true that the constant presence of arguments in a relationship may actually mean that couples love each other a whole lot. Technically speaking, an argument is a discussion between two people who are expressing opposing points of view. In this event, both people are honestly manifesting their personalities and ideologies through words directed to another person. We are forced to confront the idea that not everything is going to go as smoothly as we want it. We are going to have to make some compromises and we are going to have to make some concessions. Relationships are like muscles in bodybuilding. It may take a few breaks and damages to occur before it can be rebuilt to something greater and stronger. However, like everything else in life, there must always be a balance. While arguments can be good for a relationship, people must know that not all arguments carry equal weight. If we are going to argue in our relationships, we must always do so in a healthy and civil manner so as to preserve the chemistry and bond in the union.
You should always be careful with your words. Words have the power to be either a piercing sword or a gentle blow. Always try to stay on topic whenever you’re arguing, and make sure to never bring up past arguments. Make an effort to listen to each other as opposed to just waiting for an opportunity to make your point. If you are feeling angry or upset during the argument, be honest about it and let your partner know. Lastly, maintain a sense of grace, class, and dignity during your arguments. You have to be adults about it. You can’t afford to be acting immature if you want to save your relationship. No successful relationship has ever been built on the personalities of two immature people.
It should be about the strength of your love and your determination to overcome any obstacles together.